In this era of digital selves, it seems like the only things left are the real moments we share between the people we love in our lives. Friends, family and significant others. However, it seems like even this intimacy is being outsourced online. The ideals of love are shifting, with Instagram likes and text conversations screenshotted rather than a box of chocolates or a heartfelt card. What is really filling the void in everyday intimacy?


Online dating is a big factor, with many young adults using applications like Bumble, Tinder, or Hinge to find a romantic partner. Out of around 5000 adults sampled by Pew Research, 53% of dating app users were under 30. But highschoolers aren’t likely to use these applications due to their age restrictions.
The main way teen relationships and social media interact is the idea of constant connection. With social media, it is easier for jealous partners to obsess over their partner’s every move, easier for stalkers to find their target’s address, and even for well meaning partners to overstay their welcome.


In the past, one would not be expected to spend the majority of their time with their partner, even in a social setting like school, but phones make it easy for high schoolers to stay in constant contact.
Another potential negative of social media in relationships is the idea that single people may feel impacted by other people’s love lives. Pew Research found that 33% of single people feel worse when they see people in committed relationships post.


This social pressure to be in a relationship is most likely as unhealthy as the constant contact between partners.
In this romantic season after Valentine’s day, whether you are single or in a romantic relationship, take time to reconsider your relationship with technology and figure out what is healthy for you.

Article by Emmett Coughlan